Sunday, March 30, 2014

Learning to Cope With Long Distance




So this is going to be something a little different from the norm (though, to be fair, I only started this blog this past week, so there isn't really any "norm" yet). I knew when I began this blog that I would like to have a post about something that is constantly on my mind: my relationship with my (amazing) boyfriend. He and I have been long-distance for the majority of our relationship, so I've had to learn a thing or two about coping with the harsh reality of not getting to see him all that often.

I should start with a little background on Jake (that's his name, if that wasn't clear) and I. He and I met in our sophomore year of college, and actually tried dating early on. Neither of us were in the right place for dating at the time, so we decided we were better off as friends. It ended up being for the best, because Jake became my very best friend. He was the guy I could trust with anything, and for three years we saw each other nearly every single day. I can't speak for him, but for me there were almost always underlying feelings, but I also knew that I would rather have him as a friend then not have him in my life at all. Anyways, a lot happened in between, but long story short he graduated college (I had an extra year to complete) and a few months later we finally confessed our feelings for each other.

As fate would have it, once we finally began our relationship we became long-distance, as Jake got a job working in the city. After three years of seeing each other constantly, it was heartbreaking to finally be in a relationship and only be able to see him once or twice a month at most. This became even more difficult when he was accepted to a graduate program in Ohio, where he has been ever since. Now seeing him once or twice a month seems like a great option in comparison.

Anyways, I still haven't even gotten to the point of this post! Obviously, being in a long-distance relationship is not ideal for any couple. However, if you want to make it work you need to make the best of it. And while I am certainly not an expert on the subject, I do believe that I've gained some perspective on methods of coping through my own experiences. So a few pieces of advice. I think the most important thing I've learned is to always make sure to end a conversation with an "I love you", even if you're in an argument. When you and your significant other live in the same place, it can be easy to just go your separate ways after an argument and get some space, knowing you'll be able to see that person the next day and (hopefully) make up. Being far away from one another makes for a slightly more difficult situation. All healthy couples have some arguments, and I will be the first to admit that I will hold on to the emotions felt in an argument even after it ends. I give this piece of advice as someone who has repeatedly ignored it, but I truly believe that after an argument you should always tell the other person that you love them. You can still be angry, it's only human. But, especially when you're far away from one another, you want to make sure that person is going to bed knowing that you love them even when you're feeling upset.

Another important thing I've learned is that technology is your best frenemy. I am forever grateful for my iPhone, because without talking on the phone, texting, Facebook messaging, or what-have-you, I would rarely speak with Jake at all. However, I'm also a firm believer that using technology takes away some very important aspects of communication. I can't tell you how many times that I've received a text message from someone and taken it the wrong way because of phrasing, or use of capital letters or whatever. It's truly silly, but it's due to loss of social cues that one would experience in a face-to-face conversation. Because of this, in a long-distance relationship (or really any relationship, or friendship) it's important to always be honest, and share your feelings if you are hurt or confused by something. So often it's because something has been misconstrued, and so there's no reason to have to feel resentment for something that has been taken the wrong way.

This has become a far longer post then I originally intended, obviously I had a lot to say! I've only shared a few things that I've learned thus far throughout my relationship, but as I learn more each day I'll try and continue to share my thoughts on this blog. If it wasn't clear already, I miss Jake quite terribly but writing about it certainly feels therapeutic.
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Conair Curl Secret: A Review

As you can see in the above image, my regular hair is straight and, let's be honest, pretty boring. Most days I choose to curl or wave my hair to give it a little bit of volume and add some dimension, as I have a fairly thin and long face. I've been using a regular, old generic curling iron for years, but after reading a million and one reviews for the Conair Infiniti Pro Curl Secret, I decided to give it a go.

The Pro Curl website has a demonstration of exactly how it works, and you can find a ton of tutorials on YouTube as well. Basically, though, it's a mechanism that you put a strand of hair into, it sucks it into the "curl chamber", then you wait for it to beep and you've got yourself a perfect curl! Some cool features it has are a temperature and timing setting, which helps determine the tightness of the curl. You have the options of High or Low heat, and a timer with options of 8, 10 or 12 seconds. The higher the heat and time the tighter of a curl you will get, while with a lower heat and time gives you the option of having more of a wavy style.

It's pretty hard to mess up with this product, and it's really a fun, effortless way to get some curly locks quick. A few things that can be a pain are that you can only put a certain size strand of hair in to be curled, and the fact that you can only curl your hair in one direction. If you put too much hair in, or non-brushed tangled hair, the Curl Secret will beep and spit your hair back out. It can be a bit of a hassle, but at least it's not going to let my hair get stuck in there!

As for the curl direction, I sometimes just leave a few strands undone and use a regular curling iron on them for some variety. If you really want something like the Curl Secret that also has the option to change directions, there is the more expensive option of the Babyliss MiraCurl. It's an expensive upgrade, btu it has the same basic concept of the Curl Secret with more specific temperature options as well as the option to change the curl's direction.

Overall, I would highly recommend the Curl Secret. Even after reading all the great reviews, I didn't think I would love it just as much as I do. It's become a daily essential, and one that I would recommend to anyone that wants effortless, gorgeous curls.


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Friday, March 28, 2014

Mightiest Maraschino



I've said before that I'm not a huge fan of lipstick, so more often then not I'm rocking my natural lip color with just a hint of sheen from my handy-dandy lip balm. Occasionally, though, I like adding a pop of color to spice things up a bit. Pictured here I'm wearing Clinique's Chubby Stick Lip Colour in Mightiest Maraschino, a highly pigmented, gorgeous red color. I could go on and on about how much I love Clinique's Chubby Sticks; they're not only incredibly pigmented but also are genuinely moisturizing.

Since I decided to go with a bold lip color, I went fairly neutral with the rest of my face. As much as I love and obsess over make-up, I actually far prefer a more simple, low-maintenance look for everyday wear. While I usually wear a lighter base, here I'm wearing Laura Mercier's amazing Silk Creme Foundation. I wear the shade Cream Ivory, which is the absolute perfect match for my skin. I'll do a more detailed review on the product soon, because I truly cannot stress enough how amazing it is! I loathe heavy foundations, so I usually stay far, far away from anything that categorizes itself as full coverage. However, Silk Creme some how manages to cover any and all flaws while leaving your skin with a natural, dewy finish! Even better, it doesn't cling to any dry patches of skin, but instead glides over them to create a flawless finish. I've been reaching for this guy more and more lately, and while I will probably switch over to Tinted Moisturizer again once the weather gets warmer, I can safely say this is my HG foundation during the colder months.

xo Morgan

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Thursday, March 27, 2014

Beauty Wishlist

Wishlist
Every paycheck I get seems to go straight to Sephora, and yet I constantly am refreshing my beauty wishlist of products I can't wait to get my hands on. This is just a small sampling of some of the items I want to try most, and come next pay day hopefully I'll be bringing a few home with me! 
I am dying to try out the Smashbox Under Eye Primer. It's touted as a hydrating eye cream and primer hybrid, and with my intense dark circles it certainly sounds like something I need to try! Another one I really can't wait to try out is Bumble & Bumble's Prêt-à-Powder, an "all-in-one" powder that acts as a dry shampoo, style extender and volumizer. I'm usually pretty low maintenance with my hair, so this little gem sounds like something I could see myself using day in and day out.


xo Morgan

 
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The Joy of Candles



Up until last summer, I had worked at a Bath and Body Works for two and a half years. I say this so that I can potentially justify my enormous stash of Bath and Body Works candles, that I keep hidden away in a cabinet. While I might own more candles then any one person will ever need, there truly is nothing more relaxing to me then the aroma that fills the room when I have a candle burning.

Right now I'm absolutely loving my Watermelon Lemonade candle. The cold weather here in New York seems to be never ending, so I'm beginning to create the feeling of warm weather in any way I can. Watermelon Lemonade is a scent that Bath and Body Works first released last summer, so now whenever I smell it I'm transported to wonderful sunny skies and beautiful weather. Since the East Coast doesn't seem to have warm weather coming up anytime in the near future, I guess this candle's gonna be the best I can get for right now!

xo Morgan

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Currently Loving


NARS Tinted Moisturizer in Alaska - I started using this Tinted Moisturizer after reading about it at Gh0stParties (one of my favorite blogs, which I would highly recommend). I really dislike heavy foundations, so often I prefer BB creams for their lighter consistency. Having said that, I still like having a bit of coverage! Unless it's summer, I usually stay far away from any tinted moisturizers, because I find that they have little to no coverage. I can happily say that this tinted moisturizer does not have the problem, and in fact provides decent, buildable coverage that sets to a beautiful, dewy finish! Since buying this a few weeks ago, it has been my go-to base, and I cannot recommend it enough for anyone looking for a lightweight, dewy and natural finish.

Lancôme Effacernes Undereye Concealer in Medium Buff - My absolute biggest skin insecurity would hands down be my dark under eye circles. They're genetic, so unfortunately there's not much I can do about them. However, that doesn't stop me from constantly searching for a Holy Grail concealer that will cover them up. I'm still on the search for my HG, but right now I'm really loving this concealer! It's touted as full-coverage, and while it certainly does have a nice opaque finish, I certainly wouldn't say it's the most full-coverage concealer that I own (and I have quite the collection). That being said, I love the color options for this concealer (depending on where you shop for it, there are 15 shades!) and I also love the creaseless, matte finish that covers without looking cake-y. I definitely plan on doing a post further detailing my concealer obsession some time soon, at which point I'll do a more extensive review of this guy!

Tarte Amazonian Clay Blush in Blissful - I am more then a little obsessed with any and all Tarte products. I love, love, love their products and the fact that they're a Cruelty Free brand makes me all the more a fan! One of the brand's most popular products is their Amazonian Clay Blush, and with good reason! The blush is incredibly pigmented, and provides a beautiful flush of color that will last all day. The hardest decision I had to make with this blush was picking a color, because I honestly was in love with all 17 shades! I chose Blissful, a gorgeous warm peach color which I've been wearing daily. I already know I'll be making another trip to Sephora soon to pick up more shades of this beauty!


Revlon Colorburst Lacquer Balm in Demure - My lips seem to be dry and chapped all year long, so I've always preferred tinted lip balms over lipsticks. I have a large collection of Clinique Chubby Sticks because I love the color they provide while still being moisturizing for my dry lips. While I don't find the Revlon Colorburst Balms quite as moisturizing, I think for the price they are a fairly great dupe for Clinique's Chubby Sticks! I love the color Demure, as it's enhances my natural lip color while adding just a little bit of shine. Even though I need to add a little more chapstick before application than I would with Clinique's option, I am more then willing to do that for the inexpensive pricing of this drugstore dupe.


xo Morgan

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Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Hello!

Hi there! I can't be certain that anyone will be reading this (except, perhaps, my parents and boyfriend who will feel obligated; hi Jake!), but before I start this blog I'd like to introduce myself. My name is Morgan, and I'm currently a 22-year-old college senior, getting ready to graduate with a degree in Fashion Merchandising. I'm currently in the midst of trying to break myself into the big, scary real world, and dealing with the all too common problem of finding a job.

As of this moment, I have absolutely no idea where I'm going to end up, and quite frankly it's terrifying. It's because of this fear that I wanted to start this blog. While I don't know where I'll end up career-wise, I do know where my passion lies, and that is with fashion and beauty. I'm constantly on the web looking at my favorite blogs, and for the longest time have dreamed of starting one of my own. With my impending college graduation, I decided there's no better time then now to start a blog of my own, and fulfill a longtime dream. On this blog you'll find my thoughts on beauty products, fashion, and just life in general. I'm writing for my own personal enjoyment, and if anyone else happens to enjoy reading along the way then that would certainly be an added bonus!

xo Morgan

 

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